Cold people what makes them that way

Look for other ways that the person expresses her enjoyment of your company. For example, perhaps your favorite professor always makes room in her busy schedule to meet with you for coffee, even though she rarely makes the time to get together with most people.

With an emotionally cold person, chances are good that the more you push, the more distant he will become. Continually asking such a person to share his feelings, or attempting to make him feel guilty for not doing so, can cause him to back away from you and spend time with people who aren't as demanding.

While it's okay to let your aloof boyfriend know that it's important to you that he let you know when he's upset with you, leave it at that and don't turn your request into an unending demand for something he may not be able to offer.

Elise Wile has been a writer since Having a smile on your face looks inviting and warm, drawing people to you. It's more difficult to read someone's face when it has a serious expression. If you want to be cold, you should smile very rarely. You want people to look at you and wonder what you're thinking.

Be generally expressionless and hard to read. When you do smile, keep it contained - don't break into a wide open grin. Keep your smile small and mysterious. Flash it every once in a while to keep people guessing what's going on in that head of yours. Straight men might benefit more from smiling less, as studies show that smiling men are less attractive to women.

Master the icy glare. When someone crosses you, look them straight in the eye and crinkle your brow as if you are confused and perturbed by their behavior. Purse your lips ever so slightly to show your cool disdain. Lift your chin a little and look down past your nose. Don't let yourself look outright angry or upset. You want your expression to stay controlled, distant and cold as ice. Use cool body language. Mastering the art of body language is key when it comes to being cold. Maintain an air of mystery and control by avoiding speaking when you can use a more subtle technique to communicate.

Have excellent posture ; stand up straighter than those around you. Don't be fidgety with your hands and feet. Don't play with your hair. When someone says something that annoys you, be expressionless and turn slightly away. Stop making eye contact. Shake hands lightly instead of hugging.

Stiffen slightly when someone touches you. Speak in an even tone. When you do speak, don't let your voice rise and fall dramatically. Keep a cool, calm, even tone, even if you're feeling wildly happy or angry inside.

Don't lose yourself in laughter or tears; keep it together and try not to convey too much emotion. Be aloof and detached whenever you're talking to someone. Don't talk about yourself.

Keep some distance from those around you by not saying too much about your thoughts, feelings, habits and personal life. People who are cold don't tend to share in this way. Say only what you need to say, and avoid telling stories or jokes that might reveal too much. Don't ask a lot of questions. Asking other people questions implies that you care about them, and if your goal is to be cold, you want to have the opposite effect.

You can exchange a few polite pleasantries, but avoid expressing too much interest. Make it seem like you're preoccupied with your own brilliant thoughts and ideas to discuss the trivialities of other people's lives.

Never repeat yourself. If someone does not hear you the first time it's their own fault. You shouldn't have to repeat anything to anyone. This is due to the lack of any kind of emotional or spiritual connection that they make with those around them. They might guilt-trip you or blackmail you into things, all because they can. Because they are aloof and not that interested in things of the heart, a cold person tends to detest any shows of physical affection — especially in public.

Hugs are like Kryptonite to them and they clam up or back away whenever someone tries to go in for one. Another consequence of their dislike of feelings and emotions is that they think everyone else is too sensitive.

They might even openly criticize elements of the story, marring the experience for other viewers. That connection you thought you had with them?

Your attachment to them is a threat. Cold-hearted people are often comfortable manipulating others to serve their own ends. If they can use guilt to get you to do something for them, they will. Otherwise, they might exploit your apparent interest in being their friend.